They Have No Bearing on Who’s Invited to The Group’s Events, Parties & Dinners
You may often come across opt-in guest lists for various open lifestyle apps and legacy websites. These lists serve a variety of purposes, but when it comes to The Group’s dinners, parties, and events, they hold no weight in determining who gets an invitation. For those new to our community or familiar with how things often work elsewhere, this may seem surprising. But let me explain why.
A Show of Support, Not an Invitation
At The Group, we view the opt-in guest lists on various lifestyle platforms and apps, like SDC.com, as a show of support—a way for individuals to express interest in our gatherings. It’s always great to see people showing enthusiasm for what we do, but that enthusiasm alone doesn’t grant access. Our events are curated with a high level of attention and care, and every invitation is extended based on our own stringent vetting process, not by who clicks “attending” or adds their name to a guest list on these websites.
In some cases, people use these guest lists as a way to promote traffic to their own profiles. By associating themselves with high-end events like ours, they hope to elevate their status or garner attention. While this may work on public-facing platforms, it has no influence on the exclusive events we host. Opting in is not enough to be a part of The Group’s gatherings—it requires true alignment with our values, a demonstrated understanding of our community, and, of course, going through our qualifying and vetting process.
The “Trail of Breadcrumbs” Approach
Despite the fact that the opt-in guest lists don’t determine invitations, we still find value in posting our dinners, parties, and events on these platforms. Why? Because it helps us establish a “trail of breadcrumbs.”
For those who are genuinely seeking an elevated, refined experience, these listings can serve as a point of discovery. They show potential guests that events like ours exist, and for those who appreciate the concept of a qualified and vetted guest list, this trail leads them closer to The Group. Those breadcrumbs, when followed with curiosity and genuine interest, help to differentiate the truly committed from the casual observer.
Our process may seem more intricate than simply adding your name to a list, but it’s this attention to detail that has allowed The Group to curate events of the highest caliber for nearly two decades. We are proud to offer an experience that isn’t easily accessed but deeply rewarding for those who share our vision.
“Those Who Belong Here, Find Their Way”
At The Group, we have a simple philosophy: those who belong here, find their way. It’s not about who can click the fastest or be most visible on an online guest list. It’s about those who truly understand and appreciate the essence of our gatherings, making the effort to engage, qualify, and align with our community values.
So, while opt-in guest lists may create a buzz, and maybe a bit of confusion to those unacquainted with our process, rest assured that The Group’s gatherings will always be defined by the quality and compatibility of our attendees, not by who signs up. For those who seek more than just an event but a carefully curated lifestyle experience, we have confidence you’ll find your way here.
